Quick Exit Hide Your Tracks
TRANSLATE CAMPAIGNS DONATE CONTACT
  • Get Help Now
  • About Us
    • About Us
    • How to get involved
    • Contact Us
    • News
  • Support and Reporting
    • Adults (18+)
    • Children and Young People (0-17)
  • Campaigns
    • A-Z Consent Campaigns
    • The #GetConsent Campaign
    • Safe Space Pledge
  • Training
  • Resources
    • Awareness Raising
    • Consent – Short Film Resources
    • Downloads
    • Social Media
    • Playing Cards
    • Consent Survey
    • Hide your tracks
Options
Options
  • Get Help Now
  • About Us
    • About Us
    • How to get involved
    • Contact Us
    • News
  • Support and Reporting
    • Adults (18+)
    • Children and Young People (0-17)
  • Campaigns
    • A-Z Consent Campaigns
    • The #GetConsent Campaign
    • Safe Space Pledge
  • Training
  • Resources
    • Awareness Raising
    • Consent – Short Film Resources
    • Downloads
    • Social Media
    • Playing Cards
    • Consent Survey
    • Hide your tracks

J for Joking

Sexual violence starts a long time before we think it does – often with a joke, banter or a flippant comment.

Many of us have heard about rape culture but a lot of us don’t know what it is.  How does a joke or a sexist comment enable sexual assault and rape?

The Rape Pyramid has been around for a long time now and helps to explain what rape culture is.  At the bottom of the pyramid are sexist attitudes and beliefs, leading up through flashing, groping, and victim-blaming, all the way through to rape.

The idea is that different levels of abuse play into and enable further abuse.  For example, if a male sees an attractive woman at the bar and says ‘I’d give her one’ he is reducing her to a sexual object with no right to choose.  It also suggests that the woman has done something to attract that comment.  If they are not called out the assumption is that everyone agrees.

If we do not challenge rape jokes and misogynistic ‘banter’ some people feel enabled to follow through on what they have said.  They might touch a person without consent or use threats to get what they want.  The victim-survivor might also feel unable to report this or get support because the same beliefs that enable this behaviour also blame women for being the target of an assault.

We often see where people are convicted of rape, they have also displayed other problematical behaviour such as flashing or groping.  If you have experienced any of these things you deserve support.

Treating other people like objects and joking about sexual assault just makes rape seem acceptable.  When we challenge it, we are telling those around us that this is not okay.  Don’t let the rapist off the hook with your banter.

Download posters

night-time-economay-a-z-of-consent-j
A for Afterparty B for Booty Call C for Chemsex D for Dick Pics E for Expectations F for Flirting G for Groping H for Harassment I for Intervene J for Joking K for Kink L for Lying M for Mates N for Night Time O for Outfit P for Preloading Q for Queer R for Rough Sex S for Spiking T for Taxi U for Upskirting V for Venue W for Walk of Shame X for XL Y for Yolo Z for Zzzzzzzz

The Consent Coalition holds the intellectual property rights,
including ownership and copyright on all its resources, campaigns and designs.

Care of Nottinghamshire Sexual Violence Support Services,
who is a registered charity #1103071

Company Limited by Guarantee #4823994

Manage Cookie Consent
To provide the best experiences, we use technologies like cookies to store and/or access device information. Consenting to these technologies will allow us to process data such as browsing behaviour or unique IDs on this site. Not consenting or withdrawing consent, may adversely affect certain features and functions.
Functional Always active
The technical storage or access is necessary for the use of our website, or for the sole purpose of carrying out the communication over an electronic communications network.
Preferences
The technical storage or access is necessary for the legitimate purpose of storing preferences that are not requested by the subscriber or user.
Statistics
The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for statistical purposes. The technical storage or access is used for anonymous statistical purposes. Under normal circumstances this information alone cannot usually identify you.
Marketing
The technical storage or access is used to send you adverts, or to track you on our website or across several websites for similar marketing purposes.
Manage options Manage services Manage {vendor_count} vendors Read more about these purposes
View preferences
{title} {title} {title}